Let them...

At first, I was skeptical. I thought “Let Them” was just another American hype. But on the recommendation of a good friend, I bought it and it surprised me.

I remember opening the first chapters with a bit of resistance, almost reading to prove myself right, that it would be nothing new. But as I kept going, something shifted. The simplicity of the message hit me harder than I expected: you cannot control people. You can’t make them love you the way you want, treat you how you think you deserve or behave according to your script.

I thought back to so many times in my life when I had tried to do exactly that, overexplaining myself, taking responsibility for choices that weren’t mine. Each time, I ended up exhausted and questioning my own worth. And here was this book, telling me that their actions don’t define me. That I could let them. Let them stay silent, let them walk away, let them disappoint. And instead of chasing or clinging, I could choose peace.

It wasn’t easy… it felt almost unnatural to loosen my grip. But as I practiced this shift, I realised how freeing it was. Letting others be who they are gave me back the space to be who i am. And with that came a quiet kind of strength, the kind that doesn’t come from controlling, but from trusting that whatever belongs in my life will remain without force.

What started as skepticism turned into one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever carried: letting go isn’t losing. It’s finally making room for what’s real.